I'm loving this book! I just wish we had read it 4 years ago. Here's an exerpt from "The Anti-Child Culture:"
After Bridget became pregnant with our son [their second child], the pressure was on. Countless well-meaning people were whispering in Bridget's ear. Some warned, "Girl, you'd better not get stuck with a bunch of kids." Others tried to be more diplomatic and simply pointed out how much the cost of college tuition had risen, or the price of groceries. Unfortunately, the voices in our ear trumped the voice of God. When Trey was born, we hired a doctor to speak to God on our behalf. He took a scalpel and sutures and told God, "The Bauchams hereby declare that they no longer trust, nor welcome you in this area of their lives."
Years later they tried to get a reversal but it could not be done. He writes...
We cannot go back and undo what we did. However, we can shout from the rooftops until all who hear us know that children are a blessing and that God opens and closes the womb. We must receive children with joy instead of bemoaning their birth.
The size of our families has become a matter of income and convenience. Our attitude toward children is, "A boy for me and a girl for you, then praise the Lord, we're finally through!"
The Bauchams have since adopted 2 more children. And are waiting for more.
This is the child we almost didn't have. I got pregnant with her 2 weeks before Hubby's vasectomy. Our excuse (or mine) was that after having 4 children in just under 4 years, we just couldn't have another one as close. Well we did, and I don't know what I'd do without her. I wonder who else we've missed out on.
4 comments:
Very cool post. I like that thought. What beautiful children you have! :)
What a great picture of "Sunshine"!
I too let my mind wander on that same subject, but then I am reminded that God granted us peace in the decision to have our husband's "go under the knife." Peace is a gift of the Spirit and I cannot doubt the work He does. When I become doubtful or fearful for the decision we made with God, then I am taking the joy from His work within our family! Stay strong my friend and know that your family is perfect in God's eyes (and He will open up the door if another little Wagner comes along!)
Wow...great post. I too wrestle with our decision. I'd have a vasectomy reversal tomorrow, but Preston isn't there yet. But Iris is such a precious doll!
What a great picture Jenny!
I wish we looked at a child like a true blessing rather than our bank account first!
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