Join the Club

Did you know we're part of the same club?

Yep.  All of us. Every single person on this planet. From the serial killer in jail to the orphan baby in Russia.

We're all a part of the sinners club.  We all desperately need a Savior.

And for those who have decided to give their lives to Jesus, we all desperately need Him help us day in and day out to overcome the sin in our lives.

Your kids are a part of the club, too. 

For those of us who are diligently trying to train our children, rather than ignoring and neglecting their sin, it can really start to wear on you at times.  You might get annoyed, aggravated or down-right mad.  But remember, you're members of the same club. 

Never say to your child, "What is wrong with you?"  Because what's wrong with him is what's wrong with you!

Even asking, "Why did you do that?" or "Why do you keep doing that?" is unnecessary.  The answer is easy.  Because they're sinners!

For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood,

but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.

Ephesians 6:12

You may feel like your battling your kids, but in reality you are in a battle FOR your kids.

You're on the same team - whether they know it or not. 

So when correction or discipline time comes, try to remember:

1. to restore your child in a spirit of gentleness. Soften your voice rather than raising it. Check your tone.

2. to be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. Find out what really happened first - even if you think you already know.

3. that you are in the same boat with this child.  Remind them of what a gracious Savior we have -forgiving freely and ready to provide a way of escaping temptation.  We all need Jesus to overcome the sin in our lives.

4. and speaking of forgiveness, forgive your child.  Truly forgive as Christ has forgiven you.  Give him/her a fresh start each and every time.  Try your best to treat each act as if it's the first time you've ever seen them do it.

5. when you don't have the words, pray for wisdom knowing God is ready to give it generously.