Questions

Thought I'd answer some more questions or comments we get when people find out we're adopting 3 children.

"Wow.  You're husband must make a lot of money!" or "What does your husband do?"

Roddy does work very hard and is great at what he does.  I don't know what other people make but I don't think he makes what people must assume he makes.  Put it this way, the agency has a recommendation that our household income be a certain amount per child ~ those currently in the home and those being adopted.  We don't meet that recommedation.

But we serve a God who owns everything and He has always provided what we need and more. 

"You must have a huge house." or "Are you going to have to buy a bigger house?"

Our current house can be seen in the previous post about the yard sale.  It's 2 stories, 5 bedrooms, 3 baths, and has a bonus room.  However, we use 3 bedrooms for sleeping in and will keep it that way.  One is for us, one is for the boys ~ including the baby when he sleeps through the night (about 7-8 weeks old), and one for the girls. They'll have 2 sets of bunk beds in there ~one probably a triple bunk or a double with trundle.

The other room upstairs is the clothes closet.  The guest room downstairs will stay the guest room although we are selling the furniture (I love that furniture!) to our neighbor.  We'll put the girls' old twin beds down there instead.

"Is there any part of the adoption that overwhelms you?"

I used to feel overwhelmed about all the bugs and stuff the girls would have, but Jessica relieved my fears about that. 

Homeschool next year could very well be overwhelming but because there's nothing I can do about it now, I know it won't do any good to stress about it.  I don't feel any need to hurry up and get the girls' to the level they should be right away, so I'm just going to take my time with them starting with kindergarten and phonics, counting, etc.

The older kids are very good about doing work on their own and coming to me with questions so that helps.  I think how cool it would be to have a responsible, homeschool teenager come to help me out but honestly I'm so particular that I don't know if it would be a help.  We'll see. 

Again, God is awesome and I know He will give me what I need to get it done!

"How will you handle the comments you'll get?"

I already get comments all the time about the size of our family.  I have yet to get a negative comment.  Which I don't understand because I've heard plenty of other people getting comments that bother them.  I don't know if I'm just naive or if I understand where they're coming from.

For example, when people think we're crazy to have so many, it doesn't bother me.  I just feel sorry for them because they don't really understand the blessing of children. And I didn't always understand it either.  So I can relate. 

"What about the comments the kids will get from other kids?"

I think this one was referring to comments about having siblings of another race.  For one we try to choose our friends and our children's friends wisely.  Every one of our friends has been more than supportive.

If anyone doesn't agree with what we're doing, I really don't care.  And I mean that in the nicest way, really.  But God has opened and closed every single door in this process.  So if someone has a problem with it, they can take it up with Him.

I also said to this comment, "Well if all the black people in the world would get saved and start adopting, that would be great. But they're not going to.  And these girls were meant for us."

Stay tuned for more questions and answers.  If you have any yourself about the adoption process, our experience, our fears, challenges, anything, don't hesitate to ask.